Escorts have many reasons they may want to leave their agencies. They may feel they’ve outgrown their agencies. They may be unhappy with the rules. They may feel mistreated. They may have found a greener pasture. Frankly, it’s nobody’s business, as we are all free to have our own reasons.
It can be a thrilling experience The question is, how does one leave an escort agency with as little friction as possible?
A professional escort, being a fine person, will leave her agency much as she would leave any other workplace. She would give notice and leave amicably. Some escorts choose to just disappear one day, though burnt bridges may not be a very wise strategy in a world where everyone is connected.
Some agency break-ups are very happy events. However, some escorts feel real sadness at leaving an agency they’ve worked with for awhile. They may have grown close to the other escorts at the agency. They may have established great clients who will stay with the agency. And, the agency may have helped shape them into the escort they have become.
If you choose to part civilly, here are a few tips to consider:
Be upfront and clear about your intentions. Beating around the bush or hinting that you might leave is not an effective way to part ways. Clearly inform your supervisor or agency manager that you intend to stop working for the agency on a specific date. Let them know that you will work shifts up to the point of leaving. Don’t call in sick when you’re intending to leave; don’t call in with “emergencies” that will stop you from working. Be fair and honest with your agency about your plans to leave. While your agency may be disappointed to lose you, they will appreciate the advance notice and your frankness about leaving. Often, as in a professional environment, it’s courteous to give at least two weeks’ notice when you plan to depart.
Cut back gradually before you make the split. Depending on the agency, it may be better to gradually cut back your shifts as you’re transitioning your departure. Reducing your shifts allows you to still touch base with your regular clients, but it allows other escorts to pick up some clients you’d be seeing, which helps to spread around goodwill as you leave. Also, it helps the agency spread out the workload you’ve been shouldering in order to see who can best pick up your slack. Additionally, it may provide the agency time to slowly transition in a new escort into your spot.
Build up some savings before you leave. Because your future may not be definite when you leave your current agency, it will be smart to save up some money that you can rely upon when your fees aren’t coming in as regularly as you’re accustomed to. Your new agency may hold your fees for a week or two before your first payment. Or, if you’re working independently, it may take a month or two (or more) to build up a steady clientele that produces enough to pay your bills. Your savings should cover up to three months of general expenses. If you haven’t come up with that much in savings, make certain that you have credit available that can help with your expenses if you happen to come up short while you’re building up your business.
Have a plan. Unless your situation is dire (i.e. your agency is treating you badly), plan out what your future will hold before you leave your agency. Will you be joining another agency? If so, which one? Know ahead of time what to expect in terms of commissions, hours, contract, etc. Will you be trying to fly solo as an independent escort? If you will, do you have a website ready to go live? Do you have fine escort-grade photos to use? Do you know where to post escort ads? Do you have an incall location? Did you think your security through? Do you have a phone and email addresses dedicated solely to your business? Before splitting from your agency, know what you’re going to be doing to make a living. Make sure that you have thought ahead, realistically, and have established what you’re going to be doing.
Ensure all details are in place at your new agency. While you’re parting ways with your old agency, a smart escort will be dotting “i’s” and crossing “t’s” at her new agency to ensure a smooth transition. Make sure they have all paperwork in place, including your contract, confidentiality agreement, age validation and any other documents they need. Get them pictures to use on their website or any other marketing materials they will use to promote you. Work with them to schedule your on-call shifts and how your off-time will be slated. Essentially, nail down all details that will be necessary for you to start work as soon as you leave your current agency or when you want your new start date to be.
Change your name. Some escorts feel it’s better to leave their names in the agency they are leaving. When changing your name, ensure that it still coincides with the escort branding you will be using in your new marketing. Some escorts feel it’s necessary to change their names when they leave their agencies, because they fear that the agency may trash their new reputations. Leaving negative reviews for an escort on the agency website is not an uncommon ploy for agencies who are unhappy about an escort leaving. Distancing yourself from the agency by changing your name will make their attempts at trashing your reputation that much more difficult.
Request that your old agency remove your information. Ask your agency to pull all information about you from their website. Additionally, it could become confusing for would-be clients to see your profile listed on two websites, including the new one. A good agency that you have a positive relationship with should willingly remove your information from its website. However, others may be more stubborn, especially if they enjoy having a stable full of escorts online available for potential clients to view. The more information they have about escorts, the more successful the agency appears to be. If they are reluctant to remove your information, demand they do.
Prepare for the worst. Even if you have the best relationship possible with an agency, that amicable friendship may go south once you inform them you’re going to leave. They may become possessive and attempt to tell you that they “made you,” attempting to manipulate you to stay. Some agencies have been known to try to disparage an escort’s reputation and services by leaving negative reviews on their new agency website or profiles on other directory listings. Other agencies have harassed their former escorts with phone calls full of nasty cursing and insults. These phone calls happen at all hours of the day and night. Often, escorts must change their phone numbers to get them to stop. Many escorts have told that their old agencies have tried to steal their new clients and beat them to encounters. Splitting ways sometimes brings out the worst in people. While you may have no problems with backlash from your old agency, just be aware that it’s a possibility that you should be prepared for.
Share your criticisms and praises with your agency. During your tenure at your agency, you’ve surely come up with several things you appreciate about how they do business and other things, perhaps, that you think they do poorly. Maybe you think they do screenings exceptionally well, but they provide poor security for their escorts. Perhaps, they don’t provide you with enough time to get to appointments. Maybe, you feel their website is exceptional. Analyze what you’ve observed over the time that you’ve spent working for them. Share with your agency the positive and negative things you’ve noticed. Your input may be highly valued, and they may consider the suggestions and criticism you’ve offered as ways to improve their business. However, don’t feel badly if they don’t seem too enthusiastic about your comments. Some agencies see their escorts as a dime a dozen and don’t pay much heed to what they have to say. (After all, you’re leaving your agency for a reason, right?)
Never speak badly of a former employer. In the same corner with bridge-burning, bad-mouthing or complaining about a former agency makes you look bad, especially to a client who may have had a stellar encounter with an escort from that agency. If you’re pressed to comment on your opinion about an agency you formerly worked for, attempt to find something positive to say. If it’s difficult to find something positive to say, give a very non-committal answer such as “During that point in my life, the agency gave me several bookings.” Otherwise, say nothing — silence will be enough of an answer to a smart person, and you don’t want to deal with others. You don’t want to make yourself look petty or bad by harping on or ranting about a former agency.